5 steps to boost your confidence
Self-confidence is an essential part of humanity. A person with self-confidence generally likes themselves, is willing to take risks to achieve their personal and professional goals, and thinks positively about the future. Someone who lacks self-confidence, however, is less likely to feel that they can achieve their goals, and tends to have a negative perspective about themselves and what they hope to gain in life. The good news is that self-confidence is something you can improve! Building self-confidence requires you to cultivate a positive attitude about yourself and your social interactions, while also learning to deal with any negative emotions that arise and practicing greater self-care. You should learn to set goals and take risks, as well, since meeting challenges can further improve your self-confidence.
1. Do not compare
Your cousin might be settled abroad, your neighbor might have a more expensive car, your colleague might be more good looking, your classmate now must be earning more! Still, do not compare yourself with anyone. The grass might look greener on the other side, but you are a lot more than just that grass. There will be a 1000 things you re better at, you are more blessed, you got to stay in your hometown and look after your parents, you have bigger saving so less expensive car, you are low maintenance and more healthy than that good looking colleague, and whatnot? You have the unique abilities that make you stand out from others.
Making mistakes is being human! Never be harsh on yourself, don’t take up the entire blame to yourself. You do not need negativity that could ruin your mental and physical balance. You are more than just words told to you. Cursing yourself is the biggest punishment you can give to yourself, never do that! You do not have to rely on anyone else for your happiness, you are self-sufficient. You can make yourself smile, you can gift yourself with materialistic happiness and solo trips, even spa! Love yourself more than anyone else and see things set right.
3. Put your fear to test
Anything and Everything that you are scared of will continue to scare you if you do not work on it. Don’t focus much on the result, try taking that tiny step towards it and fingers crossed, the thing that scares you is not scary anymore. Are you afraid that girl might reject your proposal? Do you think you do not have the potential to ask for the promotion? Do you think you cannot give a speech? Try taking up one thing at a time and of course practice, but give it a try, rather than jumping into assumptions.
4. Lift each other
Do you think you are not better than others? Volunteer teaching, mentoring someone else. Do you know what those 2 ice cubes in lemon juice do to your body in the super hot afternoon? Yeah! That’s the kind of satisfaction you feel when you lift each other up. You made someone’s day, you helped someone out, you are 50% more confident now.
5. Affirm for yourself
You are your personal guarantor! Write positive things for yourself wherever you see, post-it’s, phone’s wallpaper, or anything. Look at the mirror not just for adjusting hair, but to smile at yourself, to feel proud of yourself!
A great way to overcome negativity is to give yourself smaller goals that you will hit on the way towards a bigger goal; goals that you will achieve and that will bring back self-belief and self-confidence.
Next time your idea is accepted by your boss, look at it as a success. A pretty girl (or a guy) gave you their phone number? Celebrate! You finished everything you had to do today? Congratulate yourself!
Fill your life with smaller successes and in return, they will make you feel like a successful person.